Showing posts with label self-control. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-control. Show all posts

Sunday, April 13, 2014

7 critical soft skills for your career

Do you think you are qualified for a job, for leading a team or being eligible for a promotion because you have years of experience and developed skills? Although these qualities are actually important to progress in your career, they are not everything. You must also have social skills, also called "soft skills.”
Soft skills are the qualities about your attitude towards others, your colleagues, your clients or your boss. It is they who determine your capital and sympathy that will make you go to be sociable or withdrawn. Often, they will be more decisive in promoting your executive skills.

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What are soft skills?
                   
Here are 7 critical soft skills for your career (The Soft Skills List):

1. Empathy

The ability to put yourself in the place of others is fundamental in the business world. Show that you understand the other person's point of view. Express empathy in saying, "I understand how you feel." The ability to put yourself in the place of others may simply mean that you respect the opinion of the speaker, even if you do not share it and you let him know you understand his position.

2. Listening

Hearing is not listening. Most people hear the words of their partner and begin to mentally formulate their response before it has finished expressing his idea. Avoid playing the game of second-guessing and allow the speaker to complete his thoughts without adding your interruptions. The goal here is to listen between the lines of the real message that is being communicated.

3. Self-control

If you can stay calm and patient when other get failure due to some stress, you will definitely be noticed positively by your boss. He will appreciate the fact that you keep cool and come up with concrete solutions where your colleagues panic or get angry.

4. Trust

To advance in your career, you have to trust your colleagues and your boss. You will have to work in a team or delegate certain projects. Trust is therefore vital. Similarly, you must inspire trust and credibility. Extend friendliness, warmth, sincere interest in the problems of others, and they will not doubt your credibility when you are extending help to them. Your boss and your colleagues should be then able to count on you.

5. Personal power

Use emphasis in putting yourself directly on the line and asking for exactly what they want. This is key in your relationships in the workplace.
You also should carefully choose precise words to create impressions and to convey force, authority, and leadership. Talking at a slower speed will communicate confidence.

6. Flexibility with criticism

Productive criticism or correction, which leads ,to winning relationships, deals with only the important issues and how to correct mistakes. You should be able to give and receive criticism effectively. Never fight back in response to a criticism. Your message will never be communicated if you attempt to make the other person "wrong" in order to make you look "right." Agree with part of the criticism.

7. Motivation

There are many chances at some point in your career you will be taken to persuade people. You will sell your ideas, services or products. Make the person you wish to motivate uncomfortable or dissatisfied with his current actions or circumstances. Show him a new and better way, and ask him to take actions. Then review the benefits he will gain by completing or continuing the change.

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Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Declutter your Home

Do you shudder when you think of people coming over to visit unannounced? Do you panic when you get a message on your answering machine that family is coming—and they left 4 hours ago (and it's a 5 hour trip)? Do you try to "clean" before your cleaning lady comes? Can you not afford a cleaning lady and sometimes calling desperately your mom "I need help !" Or even try to do it yourself, but ending up discouraged, frustrated, and thinking "It's just impossible"?

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The real key here is to take it a step at a time. Take it at your own pace. This IS a fight that you CAN and WILL win! You will have to commit to having less "stuff" if your home and letting go of the sacredcows you've hung on to for all these years (but please note that these cows haven't lifted a finger to help you get organized or clean—they only collect dust and take up space!). This isn't having "Clean Sweep" come to your home and do the work for you—it's all "your" work.

Don't worry. It can be done in a few minutes each day. Yes, you, too can occupy a relatively clean environment as long as you relax and let go of "it's-got-to-be-perfect-itis".

Ready for step one in Househome organization? Good. We're going to declutter first - set a timer and put on some energizing music to get you going. Decide that you're only going to declutter for 15 minutes in one certain room.

Then if you want to work longer, say, another round of 15 minutes, you can. But you don't have to. This helps you get motivated, even when you feel like cleaning is the last thing you'd want to tackle. Yeppsyche yourself out.

Go from room to room one day, just decluttering - 15 minutes in each room. Some rooms might take only five minutes - there's a good feeling! Others might take 30 minutes before you can walk through the room without tripping over something. It'll all average out.




Then on day two, go back to your first room and surface clean. Wipe off counters, sinks, flat surfaces. Then spot vacuum. If there's a stain on the kitchen floor, spot clean that baby. Day three, pick another room. Day four, still another. If you're so motivated one day and get on a roll, surface clean two rooms.

After you've decluttered, we're going to take fifteen minutes a day and do some deeper cleaning in each room. You know, vacuuming thoroughly, dusting, swatting away cobwebs, etc.

Now, if you just repeat this simple schedule, you've got a house that would at least make the grade on a pass-fail system. That takes a load off your mind and alleviates stress in your family relationships.



Remember, it's better to do a little each day and get the job done, than to stress out in an embarrassingly cluttered environment because you're too overwhelmed to even start. Go ahead -- set that timer to declutter your home!